Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Asking for a Disciplinary Spanking

There have been times when I just knew that I needed a spanking. And I use the word “need” very intentionally.  I don’t mean wanting to have one; times when even though you know they are going to hurt, you would have to admit to desiring it. I am referring to occasions when you have no doubt that you deserve it; you have one coming, and it is the only thing that will bring you peace.

For me, these rare occurrences come up when I have really hurt my wife’s feelings. Thankfully, for so many reasons, they are truly rare.

I have come to realize that when this happens she does something different then other times when she feels discipline is needed. Normally if I screw something up, as you have read in my other little essays, she takes charge and that’s it. But in these instances she waits until I ask, very humbly, for the spanking I have coming. She knows how hard it is for me to do that. It is almost impossible; I struggle to get the words out.

But she’s in no hurry. She will leave me to stew over it for as long as it takes; and it could be a whole day or longer. By doing nothing she keeps absolute control and eventually I come around and ask. And when I do, believe me, she does not make it easy. I must answer some difficult questions. I must admit they are fair questions; but very embarrassing.

For example “Why is it even worth the effort for me to give you a spanking?’ or “What kind of spanking do you deserve? Which implements and how hard should it be?” She can get very creative finding ways to make me uncomfortable with words.

It’s not a game where I know the end result either. One time she was so mad that she didn’t want to bother with me at all for a few days. Oh man, was that miserable. That incident never did result in a spanking. But belie me, the punishment was effective.

I hope it’s easier for you to verbalize about needing a spanking and that you have someone who is willing and able to respond. Regardless of how it comes about, when that spanking is finally over and you feel relieved from the guilt it is worth it.


  1. Hi Tomy. I have had a few of those "need it" sessions. Sometimes you just need to penance, and to clear the air.

  2. Totally agree with Dan, that sometimes we screw up, and the spanking lets out the emotion, and everyone feels better afterwards. I think your wife has a really good idea of questioning you when you ask for the spanking.
    bottoms up

  3. Does she ask you about how you offended, why you offended, or what led you to engage in the offensive behavior? How you can avoid such behavior in the future? These questions, though embarrassing to answer, provide a way to prepare you emotionally to learn from your actions and your punishment.