Friday, September 2, 2016



When I was a kid we used to say that “Horror Movies make you stronger.”  Relying on the wisdom of our 11 year-old brains, we figured that by getting really scared and then living to talk about it we somehow accrued toughness.  We had these profound discussions on the way home; between punching one another on the shoulder and shoving each other into bushes along the sidewalk.

Many decades later, as I sit here on a very tender bottom; the “horror movie” of a bath brush spanking VERY fresh in my memory, I find myself pondering almost the same thing. I have once again lived through, what for me is a frightening and painful event. So what are the benefits in addition to the behavioral improvements my wife wants to see (and I agree with her about)? I’ll tell you.

From time to time we all have to deal with pain. For example, I used to freak out at the dentist office. Or if I have to deal with some part of my body that got injured;   such as back or shoulder, I remind myself just how excruciating a disciplinary spanking is and that I lived through it just fine. I actually find courage when I do that.

It doesn’t make the dental work or the back injury any less painful. But it helps me to relax, somewhat, in the circumstances.  The bit of relaxing lessens the fear and in that moment I am more in control, and I would argue “stronger” for it.

In the past we were fortunate enough to have a community of Disciplinary Wives couples. Often the men would bond over the understanding that we were “tough enough” to take our punishment. We had been to “the horror movie” together and were happy to hang out together after it was over. It offered a really special connection.

I don’t know if it’s just me who leverages the disciplinary aspect of my life to be stronger in other areas or if there are others who have figured it out. It would be nice to know.

1 comment:

  1. I don't have a DD relationship. However, I have had professional disciplinarians go hard on me so I could experience the feeling of overcoming something that I find frightening. I'm not sure how it percolates out into other areas of my life, but I've done it several times.