Tuesday, April 3, 2018

RIP AUNT KAY


Aunt Kay has left this earth a better place and she surely left me a better person.  Some of you knew her in-person. But mostly she was an icon in the domestic discipline community.  In this brief farewell I want to share a few things so that when you think of her, I hope it will be with a more fully rounded viewpoint.

She was an exceptionally talented artist and left a substantial body of work. Her favorite subjects were, by far, animals and nature images. People regularly remarked at how life-like and almost “alive” they are. But her portraits are also beautiful. She also taught art to young children and was adored by them.

She was a spiritual person who knew, for a fact, that we are all just individual parts of one thing called “Life”.  She firmly believed that every person is valuable and important and she was committed to kindness and generosity. While you did not want to get on her bad side, she was not a judgemental person at all. She hated injustice and accepted people for who they were and encouraged people to fully live their life, and as a part of it, their fantasies.

She always said to embrace who you are without guilt or regret. And if you needed to be in a DWC relationship, you should have no more second thoughts about it than if you liked golf or fishing. The work she put into the Disciplinary Wives Club is best understood as just another part of her generosity. She wanted to liberate and educate people like us so that we could aspire to have fulfillment in the unique way that we need to.

If you never met her in real life, please take my word that we lost a truly great woman. She touched and changed lives in many ways, the DWC
being only one of them.

I’ll talk about myself and where my life goes in another post sometime. Right now it’s hard enough just to tell you this, typing through my misery.

26 comments:

  1. I am so sorry for your loss. While we never met, she had a profound effect on my life.

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    1. If you wish to embed her spirit and memory more deeply into your work let me know and I will help you any time. If so, you can email me about that

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  3. I'm so sorry, Tomy. I did not know there was such a serious health issue going on. You have my deepest and most sincere sympathy.

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  4. Tomy: Our sincerest condolences to you and family on your loss.
    The painting you used is such a warm and loving picture, just like Aunt Kay was.
    Aunt Kay lead the way for making a DWC lifestyle possible for many, many couples. We are one such couple, who have benefitted from adapting into our unique version of a DWC lifestyle.

    We were very fortunate to meet both Aunt Kay and yourself once, and her instruction to Cindy (Lynn at that time was the name I called my wife on my former blog) helped our journey progress.

    Rest In Peace Aunt Kay...
    sincerely
    Cindy and Red
    PS: simply delete that spam posting about movie reviews.
    Red

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  5. I am so sorry to hear this To my, my heart goes out to you and your family.

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  6. Sad & shocking news. Aunt Kay & I met back in the early 1990's when she & her sweet, submissive graciously agreed to do a "real spanking couple" audio interview for me & the benefit of other wives & couples with questions about how it should be & was done in her spank-happy home. That was before she started the DWC, & we've supported each other & stayed in touch since then. But she didn't a word about being being ill, which is understandable, but sad because I'll never be able to tell her what she & her friendship truly meant to me & many others. Thanks Aunt Kay. RIP You deserve it!

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    1. She was fond of you too. And I still recall that recording session. We sat on a little retaining wall outside of a Burger King in Santa Cruz.

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    2. I am so sorry for your loss. I have followed the dwc site for years, and she and it meant a lot to me back when I thought I was the only one. God bless you both.

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    3. I'm glad to know about yet another soul she touched. So many.

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  7. Tomy, I am so sorry for your loss. Aunt Kay was an important figure in the FM discipline scene. She awas also a truly talented artist.

    If I were you I would delete the above comment that you found to be obscene. I suspect it is spam.

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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    1. Thank you for your kind wishes Hermione. If only you had a Harry Potter wand to instantly cure the pain of her loss. But I know it's part of life and I have to go through it.

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  8. I really don't like cancer. My condolances :-(

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  9. My sincerest condolences to you and family on your loss.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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  10. So sorry for your loss. About thirteen years ago our friends Red and Cindy a.k.a DWC Mike and Lynn told us about the DWC blog. We visited and learned a lot about the lifestyle. Thanks Aunt Kay. R.I.P. John and Danielle

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    1. It's good to hear about these things. Thanks.

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  11. It's a sad loss and our heart go out to you. While we never met, her website and information was very helpful in addition to being entertaining at time. Best wishes to you & your loved ones. Graham

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    1. Thanks for letting me know. I feel a bit of pride for her with each new story I hear about how she helped people.

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  12. This is a terrible loss. Her website helped me understand what I truly needed many years ago. Today am committed to a true FLR because of it. R.I.P Aunt Kay.Stay strong Tomy.

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    1. Many thanks for your comment.

      I will "stay strong". Who I am today is the product of 25 years of her guidance. And she was incredibly wise.

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  13. My deepest condolences I know what it is to loose a wife may she rest in peace.

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  14. I still don't know how to add "Links" to this Blog. But there is a beautiful Tribute on the Blog "Disciplined Hubbies" that you will want to see.

    https://disciplinedhubbies.blogspot.com

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